Monthly Archive for January, 2012

The Power of “And”

For far too long, we’ve worshipped at the altar of “or.”  

Mine or yours.
Right or wrong.
Black or white.
Good or bad.
Acceptable or unacceptable. 
Republican or Democrat.
Gay or straight.
Rich or poor. 
Friend or foe.
Your way or my way. 

 I believe in the power of “and.”

 My dream & yours.
 My faith & yours.
 My marriage & yours.
 My sexuality & yours.
 My country & yours.
 My ancestry & yours.
 My child & yours.
 My reproductive choices & yours.
 My generation & yours.
 My point of view & yours.
 My freedom & yours. 

 It’s time to drop the “ors.”

 This country is big, beautiful and bountiful. There is room for everyone. Our founders didn’t ask us to choose between life, liberty OR the pursuit of happiness. They knew there is no freedom in “OR” – only when we make room for “AND” can we all live peacefully. 

So this June, when I’m ordained as an Interfaith Minister, I’ll wear a stole embroidered with different symbols of world religions. But perhaps the most powerful symbol on that cloth will be the ampersand. 

Because I believe in the power of “and.” 

 

(The above image is called “Ampersand Love” by Laura Pavlo and can be found here.) 

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Gentle Woman

This week the world lost a gentle, kind, loving woman.

I first met Mary in 1996, when our children started school together. Although we weren’t friends in the “Let’s have a glass of wine and get a pedicure” sense, I counted Mary among the women I really admired.

Mary and I began to bond when we shared carpool duties in Kindergarten. I’d pick up her son Robert, along with my daughter Sarah, and bring them back to my house. Mary would pick up Robert a little while later, depending on her changing work schedule, and we had some time to connect, mom-to-mom. From the beginning, I loved Mary’s tender style of parenting. Her kind eyes, sweet smile and easy laugh put children and adults at ease.